Beware the marriage guidance 'counselling' services. Mine came out with alarming phrases like; "well, children often find it exciting.. the fact that they can go and stay some of the time in a new home, and that they may have access to other siblings and be forced to form new relationships. And then she said... 'and for adults... well... often we see a relaxed attitude in our 40's to sexual relationships and relationships in general'. Amazing don't you think? Some marriage guidance people seemed to be only interested in 'selling' your their time. I suppose the reaason for phrase 'sell' in conselling!My wife at the time of course nodded her head in agreement as if she had already bribed the person conserned into saying these things. It was you see my ex who was 'more relaxed' about extra marital affairs or at least thats what I found out following a long period of deceptions. "I was in a relationship before I met Mike" ... thats me... "and now, I'm back in that relationship". She was talking about being in a relationship when she was 16 and 17 yrs old at school! and we had been together for twenty years. Our consellor had been married 3 times and now wanted to 'help' people through their 'transitions'.... So.. I've learnt another leason there.. Beware the marriage guidance consellor or at least do more homework than I did about who you will be paying for.