If you have struggled to find your niche at any time as a man, and felt out of step with who you really are at home, work and in your community its because you are a Man Servant living in the modern world.
You see you were designed to climb from under a rock at daybreak, sniff the air for possible dangers to you and your family, drink from a stream and meet up with your fellow men to go out hunting for the things required by the people you care about, young and old.
In your own way you are doing that but for the most part in isolation from your fellow men. Forced to compete in a one – to – one for everything goes against the grain and builds resentment. Not only that but losing this contact with men’s groups – your fellow hunters builds a deeper frustration and you simply don’t know why.
You might be active in a sports club however, team sports, physical games etc. and feel very little of this as a consequence. Congratulations, you have found an outlet. But most men will only have the time and resources to pursue these ‘hobbies’ for an hour or two per week, The rest of the time Man Servant steps back in line.
Happiness is in the struggle however and building a business, nurturing a home and family gets you out of bed to sniff the air in the morning. Your hunting clothes are your overalls or your suite and once on you might be prepared to meet any threat that comes your way.
But the feeling of disconnect will return because Man Servant must go on being the prominent provider even to the point of feeling trapped or stuck in a rut. As he gains experience, Man Servant may find he is the most qualified, respected, successful man in his field but through time unfortunately feels there is still a great deal missing from his life. He may indeed have it all but his church and his colleagues cannot fill the gaps.
With luck his family and friends succeed for him where others fail. His children will be the greatest joy in his life and his partner his greatest friend. If they don’t make the grade for whatever reason and whomever is complicit in this failure he may up very lost indeed.
The truth is however Man Servant, even though he feels more isolated than any previous generation, will live to become just a man again with all the love and support he deserves. Luckily, I did.